So it has been a long while since I've posted on this blog so let me first update you on me. Last post was in December and even though I didn't say this I was struggling with burnout. I truly for the first time since walking into the classroom did not want to be a teacher. Was this a result of pandemic teaching? No, not really. It was definitely the straw that broke me but if I were honest I have struggled with this for a while. God had been calling me out of teaching for several years but I just did not want to give up my comfort, my security. But if you know God like I do, he does not give up on his kids. So finally in May after crying through another lunch break and lots of text to my husband venting I just did it. I walked back in and told my director I would not be renewing my contract. Then I told my principal and submitted my resignation letter to the school board. Not even quitting is easy for us teachers, lol. I kept expecting to feel panic but all I felt was peace. Not gonna lie there have been a few moments of fear. And satan, let me tell you he used this to work on my insecurities, my family, friendships and pretty much any weak spot he thought he could find. But God and many prayers are getting me through. I still have no idea what comes next. But I do know what comes now. I am using this time to serve Him. I am attending a womens bible study that I was just too tired for before. I am auditioning for praise and worship choir tonight. If you know me at all you know and if you don't let me tell you-I love, love, love to sing but singing in front of people terrifies me. Years of being told I could not sing have taken it's emotional toll on me. But God did not ask if I could sing, he ask me to sing, to praise him with the voice he blessed me with. It may not be pretty and certainly not perfect but he asked so here goes... I am also about to take a class to be a teacher at church. This was something that I never made time for before. I already taught 5 days a week and I did not have the time to devout to another class. Maybe I will now, maybe I will lead a bible study or maybe this will just be a time for learning to be a better small group leader in my Celebrate Recovery group. But that is not up to me, he just ask me to be still, to listen and be obedient. I am taking time for me, eating better, sleeping more and walking. I absolutely hate any form of exercise but I have really let the temple he gave me go and it's time to take better care of it. I pray more and read my bible more. And I wait on him. It is the hardest thing I have ever done but once I surrendered it has been easier. I will continue to update and I know there will come a post titled "I got a job!!!", just not yet.
CaughtNbtween2worlds
Thursday, July 1, 2021
Tuesday, December 8, 2020
I am tired
So I originally started writing this as a blog to discuss the issues of parenting 2 boys with autism. It then kinda morphed into a blog about me and my recovery from abuse.
Today I am taking a new turn in my blogging journey. Rarely have I discussed my job on here. I am a teacher and I am proud to be one. I love the idea of what I do. Currently I hate what I actually have to do. Teaching in the midst of a pandemic is a nightmare. Now I know this has been hard on everyone, especially medical workers. I am not unsympathetic to this but this is my blog and my struggle. Teaching has always been a hard job. It has always been underappreciated and undervalued by those who could change it. This has only made it worse, so much worse. I can barely remember what I did today and I pray everyday that it was enough. Did I teach enough, love and nurture enough and a more basic need-did I go to the bathroom when I needed to so I can finally get rid of this UTI I can't seem to get rid of? Did I clean enough, do mask checks often enough, wash my hands enough, make sure the students wash their hands enough? Did I plan enough for tomorrow, did I turn in that report on time, do that paperwork correctly, make those copies I needed? The list is endless and I could go on. But hopefully you get the point. Did I do enough?
And the answer is No. It's never enough. There will always be that one thing that didn't get done. That one child you worry that you didn't give enough attention to. Did they eat enough so they won't be hungry when they go home, because there is no food at home. Did I hug them when they needed it? Did I yell when I needed a soft voice? Did I....literally my drive home consist of this thought process every single day. Some days I can proccess it and resolve it before I get home. Some days like today it overwhelms me and I sob the whole way home. My anxiety is so bad that some days I can't breathe. I carry my struggle into my dreams many nights. I am sleep deprived and most days it's all I can do to get out of bed, let alone get dressed.
And there is no end in sight. Well there is but that causes me the worst anxiety. Shut down. It is ever looming in the back ground. Will it happen? When will it happen? What will we do when it happens? How will my students handle it? Will they be ok? When will I see them again? I wonder some days if I don't have PTSD from the last shut down. Literally today as I was opening my computer to write I saw the words shut down at the bottom of my screen and I felt the panic just for a minute. Sounds crazy but this has become my life.
So what can you do? If you are asking that question, thank you. The answer is "Have our backs". When we call you about your child please know we have done everything we can do and we need your help. When we vent on social media don't belittle and critisize us. Hear us and value us. Just listen. Let us know that we are seen, heard, valued and appreciated. We need it now more than ever.
If you have made it this far, Thank you.
Sunday, July 26, 2020
Isolation
Sunday, July 12, 2020
Troubled
Thursday, June 18, 2020
Why can't today be some day?
Saturday, April 11, 2020
Quarantine day?
Today begins another day of social distancing, quarantine, whatever you want to call it. I have completely lost track of what number day it is but I do know tomorrow is Easter. I also know the day of His return is coming sooner than many realize. That being said, the enemy is roaming this earth causing havoc wherever he can. Christians we have to keep our armor on at all times. We have to love one another as He loves us. We must speak His name and tell His story every opportunity we get. The time is running short. If you love someone and they don't know Him, you must tell them. Pray for them, without ceasing.
Isolation for me is where the enemy does his best work. They demons of fear and depression have been having a field day in my mind here lately. I let my guard down and they come running. Poking at my sense of self-worth, my peace of mind. And truthfully I have let them. Allowing myself to think the thoughts they whisper in my ear. "Worthless, unworthy, useless, failure, unloved" These are just a few of them. Crying and feeling the despair they bring with them. But God did not leave us defenseless. He has given us a sound mind to make good decisions. He bound the enemy and we have that same power given to us from Him. In His name we can overcome.
We have the helmet of our salvation protecting our thoughts reminding us of who we are in Him. We have His righteousness covering us like a breast plate. His truth like a belt around our waist. Holding us up and supporting us when we are weak.We have our sword, His word but we can't use a weapon we don't know. Use this time to read it, learn it and commit it to memory. Use the shield of our faith-remind yourself that even when things look their darkest He has never failed you. He will always be there and His will is for us to stand strong, to prevail over the darkness both in this world and in our own heads. We must use those sandals to bring this hope to a world that is in despair. This is a time we can shine our light, share our hope. Never forget that.
Remember His grace, forgiveness. Even in that last hour, enduring unimaginable pain he spoke "Father forgive them. They know not what they do". The very people who condemned Him to death, the people who drove the nails in His hands and feet. Who gambled away His blood stained clothing. Who mocked Him, laughing at his pain. He forgives. There is no sin that can't be forgiven. We do not deserve it but He gives. I pray that this will never lose its power over me. That I will always be broken hearted and humble. Even now knowing that my flesh is weak and my pride will make me fall again. My Jesus, my precious Jesus, the name above all names. He is my Lord, my Savior. HE IS RISEN! THE TOMB IS EMPTY!
Sunday, October 6, 2019
I forgive you
The next chip started collecting was more of a cry for help. In listening to several of my small group members discussing depression, an ugly side effect that can accompany abuse, I realized I needed help. I was drowning in all my pain and denial. I went to the doctor, got put on my meds and talked truthfully about my feelings. At 12 months I felt better. I was cured. Yeah, right. So at this point I had done a step study "Life's healing choices" and was about to do another. I breezed on through the second one and felt pretty good about myself and how recovered I was.
Well, then came the 12 step program. I had forgiven my ex during my first 8 step, worked through some childhood trauma in the second so when it came time for the dreaded spiritual inventory I really wasn't sure what I needed to work on. After all I was recovered.
Boy was I wrong....I sat down one day and started to write. Listed all my past hurts and just stopped. I was good with all those, what was I going to put in the rest of the columns? Then I did what I should have done first. I prayed. God answered pretty quickly "Me". Gulp, really are you sure? As I wrote it down in obedience the thoughts and tears began to flow. Wow! I really hated myself. I had never forgiven myself for all my past mistakes. In fact I had my own private monologue about how bad I sucked. I made a whole lot of bad decisions. I stayed in a dysfunctional relationship long past it's expiration date. I hurt my boys by allowing their biological dad to hurt them and not stopping it. My self care is non-existent. I allowed myself to be used by my ex for money and pretty much anything else he wanted. After all life was all about him. I internalized all the ugly lies that were told to me from my childhood. My self worth was less than zero. I completely lost my voice when it came to standing up for myself, The list continued as I berated every single part of me. It was so easy to list all the bad things about myself. After all I had heard them every day, first externally by others and then internally in my own voice.
I seriously felt like I was drowning in my own head. My depression came back, my anxiety kicked in. And the voice in my head chimed in, practically cheering me on. But one thing about recovery is that it is ongoing. I had also learned some new skills. I reached out to my accountability partner and sponsor. I read my bible and I prayed. Today in church during altar call I prayed. I cried and I heard my answer. In order to heal this wound I had to stop ignoring the dialogue in my head. Listen to it and silence it once and for all. I had to reach out and ask for the help I needed. I had to accept the truth-I did not get to choose to be broken. That was not my fault and I needed to lay that down. But I could choose to lay it down. I can be healed. Every time I acknowledge the lies I tell myself, I name it for what it is and replace it with truth. It will not happen overnight but it will happen. My Father in Heaven did not create me to be defeated but victorious. I can be free.